In memory of Wayne:
This time of year can be very emotional for many of those that loved Wayne.
It doesn’t matter if it is the 1st anniversary or the 8th/18th or 25th, it never gets any easier, I suppose it just becomes more common.
Grief and anxiety (anxiousness) can have a huge impact on your body and hormones.
It continually effects the nervous systems within your body.
You have two systems; ‘fight & flight’ and ‘rest & digest’ – these cannot be on at the same time, so when you are always anxious, scared, upset, nervous your body will not relax and digest food, which then leads to weight gain and other health concerns.
Wayne of course was very worried there for some time (how could you not be), and he would take shallow breaths, he wouldn’t breath deep down into his tummy, these shallow breaths are the same for anyone that becomes upset or is anxious – but what the concern with breathing like this all the time is:
This is connected to mind-gut axis. If you don’t breathe deep into the belly you don’t clear your mind either. You load more stress on the body and yep more health issues and weight gain. It becomes a vicious circle.
So back to the days when we were fresh on earth and the saber-tooth tigers were preying on us (same sensation signal our bodies have when anxious now or stressed), our bodies were designed to do the following when that tiger was around:
-Digestive system stops (like eating whilst reading an email/facebook that upsets you, or scoffing down food before a meeting that you know will be intense, it can be anxiety over family members) you cannot rest and digest food whilst fight and flight system is active.
-Release an acid under our skins so that we are not tasty to the tiger when it bites into us. This acid relaxes and loses some of the elasticity in our skin and therefore that’s how our skin ages quicker. (Like people that get high stressful jobs, they can look older within a year of being in the job due to the stress, it can be bad health. Smokers, the stress the tobacco is putting on their lung and airway systems, it stresses them – it’s the same pathways).
-Our blood would thicken so that we wouldn’t bleed out straight away (that’s why if you’re stabbed in the back you will die quicker than if you were stabbed in the gut, because you would have had time to see it coming and your body would have prepared itself)
-Bowels and bladder empty quickly so that you are lighter to run (like the nervous toilet stop you have to make before a major presentation, operation or a marathon).
-Immune system goes on the back burner as we are trying to stay alive. So then it shuts down; look what happened to Wayne. Your body cannot fight anything while it’s stressed and seriously chemo is a stress to the body – it’s a poison!
Mediation is one way to be able to help your stress reduce and your anxiety.
I know this isn’t for everyone, but it is proven to react with the prefrontal cortex in the brain where all the decisions are made, if you tap into here it will help lower the overall stress, and load put onto your body.
This may help you have a calmer approach to things in the future.
Even if you only allowed 5 minutes a day – it’s worth it.
Like I have mentioned in all the posts, you need to start taking care of you more.
We were made to stress, the cortisol we have is there to help us survive in a life threatening situation, but the way we live today we are tapping into this every single day, and many many times every single day!
From the stress we place on our bodies in ways of overtraining, overeating high sugar foods, refined carbs, late nights, bright artificial lights, busy days, high expectations on ourselves, toxic products, no sleep, early mornings, traffic conditions, EMF’s (electronic magnetic fields), plus much much more.
By changing one part of your lifestyle each week, you can slowly reverse the way in which your health could be going.
Grief is hard to deal with, and it is hard on your hormones, I had issues with mine after Wayne had passed, due to the build up prior to his passing.
Through meditation and reiki, I found my way, I learnt to ‘let go’ and it’s ok to cry and let your emotions run, this is exactly what your body wants you to do – you need to surrender and allow your nervous system to relax, to stop fighting all the time.
Wayne would not want you to suffer, he would want you to change if you knew your health was on the line.
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