In memory of Wayne:
Thank you all for taking the time to read these very important messages to help you think about your health or health of the ones you love.
This photo was taken at Wayne’s best mates wedding – Cruzie and Lisa (great wedding by the way).
Cruzie and Wayne got up to a lot of no good, and they made the most of life!
They both laughed every time they got together and they didn’t just laugh, they let out some deep belly laughs. We all shared a house for awhile – OMG – talk about a circus!
Wayne had the funniest laugh which had a ripple effect and made others laugh with him.
Two points I want to make in this post and one is:
1. Wayne always hide behind his size when he was younger by being the ‘clown’. He was conscious of his weight and therefore would be the joker so that others couldn’t laugh AT him, they’d have to laugh WITH him.
Don’t get me wrong, he had many people that adored him, but I remember growing up he did go through a hard time in early high school years, being picked on – these days labelled as #bullying.
Many of you that are reading this may not have cottoned on to Wayne and mine’s last name “Fatone” aka “FAT-ONE”, and with Wayne being a bigger bloke this was a full on target for him, and gee did he feel it at times.
But being a bigger bloke in his heart, he found some terrific mates (now my surrogate brothers) who he really enjoyed and appreciated their true friendship.
So where I’m going with point one in regards to health, is that loneliness, that outcast figure, is leading to depression, insecurities and mental health.
Wayne was lucky to have more support than non-supportive groups, but there are some people out there that suffer way too much from this situation.
Judging someone from how they look or what they wear is very unfair – everyone has a story, and you do not know that story by just looking at them.
2. The other point I wanted to add to this post about health – is to laugh each day.
Laughing releases oxytocin your NON-stress hormone. Like in all the posts I have noted how STRESS is so harsh on our bodies, and having a great laugh deep down in your belly is certainly one way to remove the tightness of stress.
You don’t have to be captain serious every day, you need to laugh with you children, giggle with your friends, relax and enjoy your life when you can.
This is one of the biggest parts of Wayne I truly miss – his laugh, it started like a wheezy laugh into a belly laugh. All those that were lucky enough to have spent time with Wayne would know exactly what I mean.
You can see from this photo just from his smile, how contagious he was. (How good does he look in blue!)
So please this next time you judge someone without even talking to them, maybe stop and just think they might have been up all night with a sick relative, they may have just had news themselves of a terrible illness, they may have been assaulted as a child, or partner, they may have just been abused by the last person they ran into. They may have just lost a job and cannot afford the latest trendy clothes – who knows – but all I know is that you don’t know their full story!
Did you know a study done about non verbal judgement was:
A woman meeting another woman without speaking judged her in 3 secs
A woman meeting a man without speaking judged him in 9 secs
A man meeting a women without speaking judged her in 25 secs
A man meeting a man without speaking judged him in 60 secs
* terrible isn’t it?
I’m not saying anyone reading this is this way inclined, I’m just saying.
But my biggest take away here for your health is – LAUGH –
laugh at something before you get to work, laugh with your children before school, laugh at your pets – JUST LAUGH
xo
#misshim #lovehim #family #brother #laugh #love #bekind #listentoothers #giggle #thankyou
