Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself
This book brings reality with science about positive change which is a brilliant way to move forward into our new decade..
Reading this book helped me to set new intentions and I truly felt very positive once I read this book.
I have paraphrased from this book some interesting parts for you to read, and if this inspires or intrigues you please read the book…
I hope you enjoy…
If you are going to expect anything, expect the unexpected : Dr Joe Dispenza
Surrender, trust, and let go of how a desired event will unfold..
The biggest hurdle to overcome, because we human beings always want to control a future reality (unknown) by trying to re-create how it occurred in a past reality (known).
Generally, we are grateful for something that already happened or is already present in our lives. You and I have been conditioned into believing that we need a reason for joy, a motivation to feel gratitude, grounds to be in a state of love.
You give thanks for something that exists as a potential in the quantum field but has not yet happened in you reality?
If so, you are moving from cause and effect (waiting for something outside of you to make a change inside of you) to causing an effect (changing something inside of you to produce an effect outside of you).
Gratitude
When you are in a state of gratitude, you transmit a signal into the field that an event has already occurred.
Gratitude is more than an intellectual thought process.
You have to feel as though whatever you want is in your reality at this very moment. Thus, your body (which only understands feelings) must be convinced that it has the emotional quotient of future experience, happening to you now.
Did you know…
…95% of who we are by the age 35 sits in the same subconscious memory system, in which the body automatically runs a programmed set of behaviours and emotional reactions. In other words the body is running the show.
If you are a person to apologize all the time:
Over the years you have trained your cells to demand more molecules of emotions (guilt, sorrow etc) in order to fulfill their chemical needs.
You had trained your body to live as a memorized chemical continuity, but now you’re interrupting that, denying it its chemical needs and going contrary to its subconscious programs.
The body becomes addicted to guilt or any emotion in the same way that it would get addicted to drugs. At first you only need a little of the emotion/drug in order to feel it; then your body becomes desensitized, and your cells require more and more of it just to feel the same again.
Trying to change your emotional pattern is like going through a drug withdrawal.
Once your cells are no longer getting the usual signals from the brain about feeling guilty, they begin to express concern.
Before, the body and the mind were working together to produce this state of being called guilt; now you are no longer thinking and feeling, feeling and thinking, in the same way.
Your intention is to produce more positive thoughts, but the body is still all revved up to produce feelings of guilt based on guilty thoughts.
Positive thoughts:
A thermostat in the brain called the hypothalamus also sends out an alarm that says: Chemical values are going down. We’ve got to make more!
So the hypothalamus signals the thinking brain to revert back to its old habitual ways.
This is the “slow track”, because it takes longer for the chemicals to circulate through the bloodstream.
The body wants you to return to your memorized chemical self, so it influences you to think in familiar, routine ways. So it activates the corresponding networks of neurons that have fired and wired for years, which are equal to the mind of that feeling.
These “fast track” and “slow track” cellular responses occur simultaneously.
And the next thing you know, you start to hear the chatter of thoughts like these in your head:
– You’re too tired today.
– You can start tomorrow.
– Tomorrow’s a better day.
– Really, you can do it later.
– This doesn’t feel right.
Most of us can relate to this little scenario.
It’s no different from any habit we’ve tried to break.
Breaking habits
Weather we’re addicted to cigarettes, chocolate, alcohol, shopping, gambling, or biting our nails, the moment we cease the habitual action, chaos rages between the body and the mind.
The thoughts we embrace are intimately identified with the feelings of what it would be like to experience the indulgence.
When we give in to cravings, we will keep producing the same outcomes in our lives, because the mind and body are in opposition.
Our thoughts and feelings are working against each other, and if the body has become the mind, we will always fall prey to how we feel.
To change your state of being, which is intimately connected to feelings that you’ve memorized. Just as negative emotions can become embedded in the operating system of your subconscious, so can positive ones.
We stand on a soapbox proclaiming change to be our best interests, but on a visceral level we can’t seem to bring up the feeling of true happiness.
That’s because mind and body aren’t working together.
The conscious mind wants one thing, but the body wants another.
Have you known people who always seem to talk about ‘the good old days’?
What they’re really saying is:
Nothing new is happening in my life to stimulate my feelings; therefore I’ll have to reaffirm myself from some glorious moment in the past.
If we believe that our thoughts have something to do with our destiny, then as creators, most of us are only going in circles.
If the experiences in your life aren’t changing, the chemical signals going to your genes aren’t changing. No new information from the outer world is reaching your cells.
Sometimes a change in genetic expression can be sudden and dramatic.
Seeing someone’s hair turn grey overnight after extremely stressful conditions.
This is an example of genes at work…
They experienced such a strong emotional reaction that their altered body chemistry both turned on the gene for the expression of grey hair and shut off the genetic expression for their normal hair colour, within a matter of hours.
The signaled new genes in new ways by emotionally, and thus chemically, altering their internal environment.
Three brains: Thinking to Doing to Being
Emotions are the end products of experience; a new experience creates a new emotion (which signals new genes in new ways).
Thus emotions signal the body to record the event chemically, and you begin to embody what you are learning.
In the process, the limbic brain assists in forming long term memories; you can remember any experience better because you can recall how you felt emotionally while the event was occurring. (The neocortex and limbic brain together enable us to form declarative memories, meaning that we can declare what we’ve learned to experience).
EG: you remember where you were when you proposed or were proposed to – when you found out you were pregnant etc.
The combination of everything they were experiencing in that moment made them feel very different from their normal self.
When we memorize addictive emotional states such as guilt, shame, anger, fear, anxiety, judgement, depression, self-importance, or hatred, we develop a gap between the way we appear and the way we really are.
The former is how we want other people to see us.
The latter is our state of being when we are not interacting with all of the different experiences, diverse things, and assorted people at various times and places in our lives.
If we sit long enough without doing anything, we begin to feel something…
That something is who we really are.
Coaches words:
I highly recommend this book to those of you that are wanting to change your habits, and have been going around in circles for the past year or more.
I found so many interesting parts and have implemented them into my life now and more so through my thought patterns.
Who doesn’t want to move forward in a positive way…
To your health and happiness and I hope you enjoy the book..
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