A new earth – Eckhart Tolle
The core of ego
There is nothing that strengthens the ego more than being right.
Being right is identification with a mental position – a perspective, an opinion, a judgment, a story.
For you to be right, of course, you need someone else to be wrong, and so the ego loves to make wrong in order to be right.
In other words: You need to make others wrong in order to get a stronger sense of who you are.
Being right places you in a position of imagined moral superiority in relation to the person or situation that is being judged and found wanting.
It is that sense of superiority the ego craves and through which it enhances itself.
Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.
According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, medical treatment is the third-leading cause of death after heart disease and cancer in the US.
Homeopathy and Chinese medicine are two examples of possible alternative approaches to disease that do not treat the illness as an enemy and therefore do not create new diseases.
Whatever behaviour the ego manifests, the hidden motivating force is always the same: the need to stand out, be special, be in control; the need for power, for attention, for more.
And, of course, the need to feel a sense of separation, that is to say, the need for opposition, enemies.
The satisfaction that you feel is of the ego, and it is derived from feeling a stronger sense of self-relative to the other person.
Even if he or she is the president or the pope, you feel superior in that moment because you know more. Many people are addicted to gossiping partly for this reason.
In addition, gossiping often carries an element of malicious criticism and judgement of others, and so it also strengthens the ego through the implied but imagined moral superiority that is there whenever you apply a negative judgement to anyone.
Many people fluctuate between feelings of inferiority and superiority, depending on situations or the people they come into contact with. All you need to know and observe in yourself is this:
Whenever you feel superior or inferior to anyone, that’s the ego in you.
Being right, making wrong
There is nothing that strengthens the ego more than being right. Being right is identification with a mental position – a perspective, an opinion, a judgement, a story.
For you to be right, of course, you need someone else to be wrong, and so the ego loves to make wrong in order to be right. In other words: You need to make others wrong in order to get a stronger sense of who you are.
Being right places you in a position of imained moral superiority in relation to the person or situation that is being judged and found wanting. It is that sense of superiority the ego craves through which it enhances itself.
The many faces of the Ego
A range of conditioned patterns of behavior come into effect between two human beings that determine the nature of the interaction.
The more identified people are with their respective roles, the more inauthentic the relationships become.
Peace, after all, is the end of the ego.
There are three words that convey the secret of the art of living, the secret of all success and happiness:
One With Life.
Being on with life is being one with Now.
You then realize that you don’t live your life, but life lives you.
Life is the dancer, and you are the dance.
Although the body is very intelligent, it cannot tell the difference between an actual situation and a thought.
It reacts to every thought as if it were a reality. It doesn’t know it is just a thought.
To the body, a worrisome, fearful thought means “I am in danger,” and it responds accordingly. Even though you may be lying in a warm comfortable bed at night.
The heart beats faster, muscles contract, breathing becomes rapid.
There is a buildup of energy, but since danger is only a mental fiction, the energy has no outlet.
Part of it is fed back to the mind and generates even more anxious thought.
The rest of the energy turns toxic and interferes with the harmonious functioning of the body.
What is a negative emotion?
An emotion that is toxic to the body and interferes with its balance and harmonious functioning.
Fear, anxiety, anger, bearing a grudge, sadness, hatred or intenses dislike, jealousy, envy – all disrupt the energy flow through the body, affect the heart, the immune system, digestion, production of hormones, and so on.
There is a generic term for all negative emotions: unhappiness.
Do positive emotions then have the opposite effect on the physical body?
Do they strengthen the immune system, invigorate and heal the body?
They do, indeed, but we need to differentiate between positive emotions that are ego-generated and deeper emotions that emanate from your natural state of connectedness with Being.
Positive emotions generated by the ego already contain within themselves their opposite into which they can quickly turn.
Whatever you cannot enjoy doing, you can at least accept that this is what you have to do.
Acceptance means: For now, this is what this situation, this moment, requires me to do, and so I do it willingly.
I hope you all find a way to accept and to look at more of the positive than the negative.
Always ask yourself “What is the message in why this happened to me?” instead of “why me?”
Peace to you all